A gift is a visual symbol of love. While showering your significant other with expensive gifts can be nice, it is not the only way to show your love. Gifts can come in a variety of different shapes and sizes. Some cost thousands of dollars and some are free. Read on for some tips about why and how gift-giving can be an important tool in strengthening your marriage.
Gifts and money
We all have our own perception of money and our feelings associated with spending it. If you are a spender, you might enjoy purchasing gifts for your spouse. If you are a saver, it may be a little more difficult. An important thing to remember is that your gifts ought to be in line with your income. It’s not necessary for you to spend more than you can afford-in fact, that could be considered downright foolish! By the same token, if a millionaire regularly gives gifts that cost $5, the receiver may start to wonder if those gifts are coming from a place of love. You can buy, find or make a gift. If you can’t afford to buy your wife fancy jewelry, it is perfectly acceptable to make her a simple card or find her a beautiful seashell or piece of sea glass.
The gift of self
One of the most meaningful gifts you can give to your spouse is the gift of self. A marriage is a union; a bond between two people. During a crisis, if one half of this union is not present, it can be devastating to the other half. Sometimes just your presence during a time of need is enough. There’s no need to say or do anything else other than be there fully present when your partner needs you.
Keep a gift journal
Some people have a hard time choosing gifts for their partner. This is where keeping a journal can come in handy. Keep a little notebook within reach and whenever you hear your spouse say, “Oh-I love that!” or “Wow, I would love to have one of those,” jot it down. When it comes time to choose the perfect gift, you’ll have ideas right at your fingertips!
Surprises are nice
To really show your love to your significant other, try surprising them. Most of us come to expect gifts on special occasions such as birthdays and anniversaries but an unexpected gift can be just as special. Pick a day to shower your loved one with gifts. Leave him a card with his breakfast in the morning. In the afternoon, have flowers delivered to his office. And in the evening, give him a special handmade-gift-a painting or a piece of pottery from your new ceramics class. When he asks what all the gifts are for, tell him, “Nothing special. I just wanted to show my love for you.”