It’s usually 8:30 PM when I give the first warning shot to my two teenage daughters.
At 9 PM, I say, “It’s time for you two to head upstairs.” I repeat this nearly every night.
And nearly every night they argue. “But why do we have to go to bed at 9?” they lament. “We’re not children anymore.”
“You don’t have to go to bed, but you can’t stay down here in the living room past 9. That’s our time. We haven’t seen each other all day, and most of the day we’ve been focused on you and work. We need our time, too.”
They roll their eyes and huff at us.
The other night, I went as far as to sing the Semisonic song “Closing Time” until they threw pillows at me. I kept repeating, “Closing time, you don’t have to go home but you can’t … stay … here!”
They didn’t laugh. At all. We, however, thought it was hilarious.
To be honest, we’ve had this rule for as long as I can remember. We’ve been parents for nearly 15 years now, and there has never been a time where our children were allowed to dominate ALL of our time in the course of the day. They dominate a lot of it, mind you, but not all of it. We love our children and we consider our role in their life to be a huge investment. We committed a long time ago to be there for them and to always be hands-on and involved in their lives.
But, there’s still us. There’s still our relationship. There’s still the health of our marriage to consider and pay attention to.
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