Let’s face it people, Hollywood’s version of marriage is far from the truth. If getting married and staying married was as easy as they made it out to be, then there wouldn’t be such a high divorce rate. Nevertheless, any married couple will be able to tell you that they have come across some problems in the bedroom department. When it’s good, it’s really good, but when there are sex-life issues, things can get awkward and tense in no time. These couples opened up about their struggles and the effect it had on their marriage.
“I love sex, and my wife knows it. We have been married for three years, and we are happy for the most part. However, my wife tends to use sex as a weapon to punish me. I know I am not perfect, but it isn’t as if I intentionally forget to buy the groceries or put out the trash. That is when my wife pushes me aside, and we don’t have any sex for a couple of days. That is generally when we get into some heated fights.”
“Now I haven’t been married for very long, and I love my husband with all my heart, not to mention the sex, but he is irresponsible. I have heard of too many couples who have fallen pregnant early in their marriages, and after the baby arrives, their sex-lives dwindle. You would think that my husband would understand that, but he would rather play rush and roulette and not use a condom. He just says it spoils the pleasure, but I wonder what he would say when we don’t even have the opportunity for frequent sex due to a screaming baby in the next room.”
“I would consider myself an adventurous girl under the covers. I like mixing it up and trying new things from time to time, but if there is something that really turns me off, it is porn. Unfortunately, my husband feels completely different. He only gets in the mood for sex if porn is involved and that is really starting to get me down. I want to be the one who rocks his world, not some bimbo who has more silicon than brains.”
“Whoever said that men are always in the mood for sex should be examined. They didn’t know what they were talking about, or they had never been married. My husband is anything but always in the mood. He is chronically tired. I know he works hard and that is job is demanding. I also know that he only wants to improve our standard of living, but there are times where I wonder if it is all worth it. I have been sex-starved for nearly a year. I can count on one hand how many times we had sex. Sometimes I feel like I just want to bind him to the bed for a weekend and have my way with him.”
“When you get married you never quite know what your partner prefers in bed. I guess that is part of the fun as you begin to explore each other’s bodies and to figure out what your partner likes. Unfortunately, my husband and I don’t share the same thoughts on what makes for great sex. He likes it rough and a bit of role play. I am the complete opposite, and this creates tension for us. I wish we could meet each other in the middle somehow.”
“I love my husband very much, and I know that he loves me the same, but I sometimes feel that he loves sex more than me. The man has the libido of a horny college student. He can’t seem to get enough of sex. Generally, he likes to have sex at least twice a day, but I am more than happy with once every two or three days. Our sex drives don’t match, and I fear that it is going to cause issues later on in our marriage.”