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Boring bedroom

My husband is not very experienced sexually and our sex life has become very boring.  I've tried talking to him about it. Discussing things I like or asking about his fantasies but I don't seem to be getting through to him. I mean he sometimes will try something once but won't do it again. I'm at a loss for how to get through to him.

Need more info... Does he have a low sex drive? Does he have an extreme hobby (video games, prob) that take up his time/energy when he could be spending it on you? Are your fantasies outside of his comfort zone? If so, you have to start slow with someone that has little experience. If you want to role-play, try starting with role-playing here and there without being the the middle of sex. Just have little moments of kink in your day life when it is just you two. You have to have 1000% trust to be able to live out your fantasies with someone. Assuming your husband wants to please you, maybe he doesn't know how and is too nervous to try. If he isn't an alpha male you can't expect him to be comfortable being a dominant in the bedroom with no practice. It's a lot of pressure to put on someone. If he doesn't share your fantasies and they make him uncomfortable, try to find some you both like together. Try literotica.com, it's a variety of sexy stories. And I mean a serious variety.

Erica, I’m so sorry to hear about your scenario. I know my sister dealt with a similar issue. It turned out that he wasn’t feeling successful or appreciated at work or in any other aspects of his life so it led to lower energy levels in the bedroom. After a couple of changes, things got better though. However, his case is just one in a myriad of problems. I’m with Stacie, more information might help diagnose the problem better.

That's crazy because I would love an open minded person like u