Don’t Let the Pursuit of Success Strain Your Marriage


Don’t let your busy schedule get in the way of connecting with your loved ones daily. If you ignore this facet of your marriage, you can end up with a strained relationship.  Connecting is one way to develop intimacy which is important to any relationship. Intimacy is the ability to have a close, loving, and affectionate relationship. One way to connect is to stop rushing, to slow down and really listen when your loved one is speaking. Make contact and resist the urge to respond. Understand and explore your partner’s expectations. Intimacy is not just about physical closeness but also about an emotional connection. Relationships without intimacy fail to thrive. Intimacy can also be obtained by giving positive comments, acknowledging what makes them special and supporting their dreams and aspirations.  A simple touch or hug not only brings about calm but it also increases your intimacy with your loved one.

Manage Your Stress

There is nothing worse than bringing home your own stress and anxiety. The energy that you bring into the home can be toxic to your relationship. You may be irritable due to the demands of the job or something that didn’t go quite the way you had hoped at work. This may cause you to not be fully engaged and your spouse will pick up on this. Learn how to de-stress before putting the key in the door. If your day was stressful, make time to take some deep breaths before you come home. Stop and pick up a cup of tea or walk around the block before you come inside. Take whatever steps you need, so that when you’re home you are present. Stress can cause you to feel fatigued mentally and physically and interfere with your sleep. If it goes on too long, it can lead to health issues like high blood pressure, depression, anxiety and increase your risk for heart disease and diabetes. Some ways to combat stress is to

Prioritize. – It is impossible to try to do everything and make everyone happy. Develop a list of things that are the most important to you and successfully complete those events. It’s better to do less and be more efficient with less stress, than to do more with a great deal of stress and inefficiency.

Get plenty of sleep. – Lack of sleep can lead to poor concentration, irritability, weight gain, depression, and high blood pressure. Try to get 7-8 hours of sleep per night.

Meditation. – Meditation is easy and can be done in as little as 5 minutes to be effective. Meditation decreases stress and lowers blood pressure. It also allows you to move the clutter in your brain and help you focus.

Exercise. – Walking is a good stress reliever and helps to keep your weight down. Schedule time to take a walk and see the benefits. Just 15 – 20 minutes can reduce your stress level.

Success is really about loving yourself, loving what you do and leaving your mark on this earth ( your legacy). How do you make your spouse and others feel when you’re around them? How have you helped others along the way in your journey to success? Material success without happiness or someone to share it with can be very lonely. Success coupled with a strong marriage can take you to even higher heights.