“You two bicker like an old married couple,” is both an observation that people make about friends who regularly argue, and a sort of backhanded compliment. After all, you can’t really argue that way without knowing each other for a very long time and having a certain understanding between the two of you, right? Well, actually yes, according to a new series of studies by psychologists. After psychology groups performed tests, it became clear that many couples who argue may have a healthier relationship than those who don’t. Do you and your partner argue a lot? Let us know in the comments section below.
Multiple Studies Done In The US Have Shown That Couples Who Argue Are More Likely To Stay Together. Psychologists believe that this may be the case for a number of reasons, the most common of which is the fact that arguing allows couples to focus on problems that need to be solved before they become too large.
44% Of Married Couples Believe That Arguing More Than Once A Week Helps Keep Communication Lines Open. The surprising survey suggests that couples may actually see the importance of arguing to explain their needs clearly to other partners.
The Fact That They Argue Rather Than Leave Also Suggests They Are More Committed. In other words, by putting up a fight, psychologists are suggesting that they are fighting for the relationship as well.
Another Study Suggests That Fighting Shows That A Couple Is Still Interested In One Another. Arguing shows that a couple hasn’t “checked out” from each other yet. By trying to argue things through, they’re showing that they are still interested.
Some Psychologists Even Say That A Lack Of Arguing Could Be A Seriously Bad Sign. In some couple dynamics, feeling like you can’t voice your opinion or argue on your behalf could be indicative of an abusive dynamic. After all, much of abuse stems from an abuser’s desire to silence their partner.
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