They say love is blind, while marriage is an eye-opener. After the honeymoon phase of marriage, reality sets in. The little things start to mean much more than they did before. Women want to feel loved and cherished. Guess what? Men do too. It’s important for a man to feel that his wife values him and wants to build a future with him.
Gentlemen, if you want to know if your wife is a keeper, here’s what you need to know:
- She’s the first one you turn to
We all have bad days at work or arguments with friends. When we’re not happy, the best thing we can do is find someone to talk to. A problem shared is a problem halved. You’ll realize that the only person you want to talk to about what has gone wrong is your wife. Where you would have confided in a friend or family member, it’s her you want to share it with.
- She listens to what you’re saying
In today’s fast-paced life, few couples sit down and talk to each other. Think about couples sitting in restaurants texting others. This is a sign that there is a communication breakdown. Even when spouses sit and talk to each other, they might not be actively listening. When your wife gives you her undivided attention and listens to what you have to say, that’s a sign you’ve married the right woman.
- She gets your sense of humor, and you get hers
During tense and stressful moments, a good laugh helps. The ability to make each other laugh is important in a successful marriage. Your wife is the right one for you if she can laugh at your sense of humor. Her ability to understand your subtle humor and appreciate it is a key indicator of her love for you. Reciprocating this by showing that you enjoy her sense of humor is essential.
- She supports your goals
A couple who invest themselves in each other’s success will have a long and healthy marriage. This means supporting you when you’re furthering yourself in your career. It could also mean being there for you as you work towards accomplishing something you’ve always wanted to do. Putting you ahead of herself is a good sign.
- She doesn’t fight ‘dirty’
Disagreements are inevitable. Very few marriages run smoothly without any conflict. It’s not so much about the conflict. It’s about how you both respond to it. Handling conflict in a mature manner is essential. Someone who doesn’t resort to insults, name-calling, and yelling wants to find common ground and resolve the conflict.
- She shows you can trust her
One of the cornerstones of a relationship is trust. This is so true in a marriage. A couple needs to be able to trust each other implicitly. There should never be any doubt about where your wife’s loyalties lie. When you know that she’s the one person on the planet you trust more than anyone else, your relationship is sound.
- She’s independent
As much as couples need to spend time together, they also need time apart as well. You’ll spend time together doing things that interest you both. However, some of your interests may not be the same. It’s okay to spend time apart and pursue your interests. In fact, it’s a sign of a healthy marriage. A wife who knows how to look after herself and retains her identity as an individual is a keeper.
- She makes time for you
There are so many distractions around us all the time. For a successful relationship, a couple needs to make time for each other. This alone time is an essential element in the bonding of the marriage. If your wife shows an interest in spending time with you and you look forward to it, then you know you married ‘the one.’