Sex is not everything, but it sure is important. With someone you love, sex is not just sex. It is a time to connect. A time to be intimate and a time to just have fun with each other. Regardless of how important this act is, we are still very uncomfortable about talking about it. We are not honest, and we don’t just come out and say what we want. These are some things that your wife wants you to know but won’t tell you.
Try being gentle once in a while
Any sex guide will always stress the importance of foreplay. They will go on and on about technique, rhythm, timing and a whole lot of other nonsense that complicates the issue. The idea behind foreplay is very simple. You are trying to seduce your wife. You are trying to get her blood pumping and her heart racing.
This does not have to be done at breakneck speed or with a lot of force. It can be done gently. It can be the brush of a finger, one single finger. It can be a strategically planted kiss. If you head for gold right away, then you are doing it wrong. Take your time and tease her a bit. Anticipation is your greatest friend when it comes to foreplay.
Sometimes, it is just not going to happen
A female orgasm is not like a male one. It does not happen as quickly, and sometimes it won’t happen at all. That is totally ok. You will not be able to force it out of her unless you are alright with her faking it. When it seems like it isn’t going to happen, accept that and try again later.
Maybe the next time you two give it a shot you can go the extra mile. For a woman to have an orgasm, she needs to be fully immersed in the activity. The rest of the world needs to be shut out. This can be done by dimming the lights, playing romantic music or even lighting some delectable incense.
The whole headache thing is generally an excuse
Sometimes she will have a headache, she is human after all. A lot of the time though, she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. The fact that your wife is not in the mood does not mean there is anything wrong with you. She hasn’t suddenly fallen out of love with you. She simply is just not in the mood. It happens. Libido can be a tricky thing.
Women are sexual beings, yes. But, they do not generally have the sex drive that a man does. This might be frustrating for men, but it is simply a biological fact. Give her some space, and you will find that her libido will be back soon.
There is a lot to do above the belt
Here we are talking about her belt and not yours. Men tend to delve below that line far too often and far too quickly. They are called fun bags for a reason. So, here’s an idea, why not linger a bit and have some fun with them? But, they are not stress balls either. Passion is one thing, and it’s perfectly ok to get caught up in the moment. It is not ok to start kneading the fun bags. Very few women would thank you for that.
Compliment her outside of the bedroom
Throughout history, there have been men that have mastered the art of seduction. They have been able to walk into a room and snag any woman they wanted. This was not witchcraft. What they did was simple. They made women feel wanted. A woman who feels wanted will want you. If you are scratching your head on how to turn your woman on, try complimenting her. If she feels appreciated and desired she will return the favor by desiring you.