There are a few things that a spouse can do that are deal breakers. Relationship expert, Kim Olver, from The Relationship Center has put together 5 things that every couple needs to avoid in order to stay together.
With over 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. ending in divroce, it’s important to take a look at the marriage mistakes that can lead to divorce. While researching this subject for my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I asked happy couples what their “non-negotiables” in marriage are. One hundred couples responded about the dealbreakers in their marriages. Here is what I learned:
1. Cheating. Many respondents said that if their partner cheated on them, they would end the relationship. But not every couple felt this way. Some respondents indicated a willingness to work through infidelity; however, many thought they could not. Even those who believe they can stay with their partner have difficulty restoring trust. The person who did the cheating may be repentant but the person who was cheated on often feels so betrayed that they can’t get past it. They continue to punish their partner for the deep hurt they feel and the relationship often crumbles.
2. Dishonesty. I was interested to learn that people in relationships can have different definitions of dishonesty. Some believe that dishonesty involves only those incidents when they deliberately say things they know to be untrue, so neglecting to tell the truth is not seen as dishonesty. For others, anything that can be misleading from the truth, such as omitting certain details, is viewed as a lie. Many people in happy relationships said if their spouse lied to them, they may not be able to continue the relationship. For many, the marriage should be one of absolute trust. When that trust is abused or broken, some cannot maintain that relationship.