Everyone has dreams and goals unique to them and them alone. But, there is a common thread amongst most people. And this is that most of us want a relationship that lasts, and we want good sex. No one is saying that sex is the only thing that matters, but it sure as hell is important. It is what brings couples closer together, it is what bonds couples, and it allows each person to be uniquely vulnerable in the arms of their loved one.
How then is one able to have a fabulously good sex life as well as a bustling career and social life? Are they mutually exclusive or can one actually have it all? The love, the friends, the life and the career satisfaction? These are tips from couples who do seem to have it all.
Desiring someone and being desired by them, is possibly one of the most satisfying things in the world. Flirting is guaranteed to make your loved one feel secure, loved and wanted.
It is an age-old cliché that communication is key. This is true for sex too, keep those lines of communication open and your sex life will flourish.
Forgive and forget
It is paramount not to hold grudges in a relationship. It isolates couples from each other and this will show in their sex life. Once the fight has been fought, let it go. Do not let old grudges leech their way into the bedroom.
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Exercise releases endorphins which naturally make one feel happier. A happy, healthy person is obviously more virile. Stay active with your spouse and that energy and exuberance may just translate in bed.
Get your sleep
A tired person is a cranky person and a cranky person has no desire to have sex. For the sake of your mental state, skin and sex life, make sure that you are getting sufficient sleep. Besides, what better way to get yourself tired than a little late-night loving.
When it comes to sex, the classics are comfortable. You know exactly what you are going to get, which makes it easy to slide into a slump. Don’t be afraid to shake things up every now and again. Get creative, reveal your innermost desires and give them a try.
Make sex a priority
Sex is fun, yes. But it is not just something to do to pass the time. Sex is important and should be treated as such. If spontaneity is not an option at the moment, then make sure that you set aside time for it. It should not be treated as a chore but rather a reward for a hard day’s work.
Stay interested in your partners’ desires
Even after being with someone for years, you will never know all there is to know about them sexually. Stay interested and curious about your partners wants and desires.
Don’t take life or sex too seriously
Strong couples know that it is important to be able to laugh at themselves and each other. This holds true in the bedroom. If one is able to laugh at the odd noises and positions that accompany sex, the experience remains a thrilling and enjoyable one.
Accept the fact that sex will not always be perfect
This is not the movies. Sex will not always be this flawless dance of naked bodies. Generally, it is quite clumsy actually. Accept that, embrace that and you might just find yourself enjoying sex with your partner for years to come.