It can be very easy to meet expectations that are explicitly stated by your wife. But, no woman wants to be in a relationship with a man who does the stated minimum for her as required by their relationship status, be it when dating or when being married. There are many things in a relationship that makes a woman feel truly loved, desired, and appreciated, but paradoxically, are things very few women will want to actually ask you for.
If you truly love your wife, you want to go above and beyond to show your love for her, but it can be hard to know exactly what to do. We’ve put together a list of the 10 things your wife absolutely wants from your marriage but might be hesitant to ask for. Putting these ideas into practice will elevate your marriage to the next level, and will truly show your wife how much you love and appreciate her.
That you speak through actions and with words
Going above and beyond, and acting on the love you profess for your partner is one of the best ways to truly show you care. Send an encouraging text on days when your partner might be anxious, take extra care and pick up the household slack when she is sick or under stress, be enthusiastic and willing to help with household work and cooking duties. These actions are small but contribute to a wonderful life and partnership.
Lives of people today are extremely luxurious compared to the conditions that humans lived in even a few centuries ago. This doesn’t mean that you are to skip on all the chores altogether because modern life comes with conveniences and we have electricity and roofs and public transportation. Deep inside, your woman still wants you to be taking care of her in some way. What matters is that you show that you care about her and about your relationship, that you pay attention. In modern times it is mostly little things, but they do matter a lot.
No woman wants to be her partner’s mother or to have a partner who does the bare minimum. Many men fall into a trap of allowing their wife to manage their schedule, take responsibility for their home, and be responsible for the forward motion in their relationship. Your wife wants an adult, and it is important that you take an interest in and responsibility for all domains of your life. Acting maturely, planning for your future together, and stepping up in household chores is something some men fail to do, even without knowing it. This often becomes an issue after a couple has a child. Your wife may have tolerated your childish behavior before, but now that you have a child and she has a lot of new responsibilities, she wants help and protection, not an adult baby. Also, if you exhibit childish behavior, it will be very obvious that it is childish because you now have an actual child in the family. Grow up, become an adult and handle your responsibilities as an adult.
To feel sexy and desired
Your wife wants to feel wanted, beautiful and desired. You know you are attracted to your wife, but it is a wonderful thing if you can make her feel beautiful at any time of the day. Even when you aren’t actively pursuing sex, be sure you maintain a lot of physical contact and intimacy. Holding hands, kissing, hugging, and massage are key to keeping physically engaged and interested in one another, and a wonderful way to show your love.
Spontaneous romance is one of the most touching things a man can provide for his wife. Standard gifts and surprises for birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays are expected (and important) but doing something special just to say I love you on a Tuesday can mean even more.
These gestures don’t need to be expensive and can be as small as having a bath drawn and snacks ready when you know she has had a tough day. Knowing you were thinking about her and that you are dedicated to her happiness is the real message, and goes a long way.
A true and vulnerable expression of emotions
Men can be uncomfortable expressing emotions, and that is not surprising. Society actively discourages men from getting in touch with what they feel, and many men struggle with sharing their feelings when they enter an adult relationship.
The truth is, you have feelings, and they are important. Your wife wants to know about them without having to pry them out of you. Being open, honest, and forthcoming about how you feel will encourage your partner to do the same, and make her feel loved and trusted. Being clueless about your feelings or not being able to communicate about them doesn’t make you a man. Masculinity is about confidence and direction, not being stuck in your intellectual thoughts.